When you think negatively about yourself you start feeling bad because your mind perceives what you think about your image and takes it as gospel truth.
For this reason, you will want to learn how to talk well to yourself to avoid the effects of negative self talk as well as to find peace and happiness and have them stay for life.
This being said, a good way to help you get started working on this is by reading the book, “What To Say When You Talk To Yourself”.
It handles this topic pretty well.
And inside this What to say when you talk to yourself book review, I will be helping you understand the most essential areas of the book like the gist of it, some more meat of the book, comparison with another great book on this topic, the pro’s and con’s, customer reviews, video reviews on it, who the book is for, where best to buy it and my final thoughts on the book.
It will help you understand how useful the book can be in working on this area of your life.
So, let’s jump right in and see how exactly it achieves this.
Name: What to say when you talk to yourself
Author: Shad Helmstetter
Best Place to Buy: www.amazon.com
Genre: Self Help Book
Publisher: Gallery Books
Publication Date: June 20, 2017
The Gist Of The Book
This is a book that helps you learn how to stop speaking to yourself in a negative way and start embracing optimism and positivity so as to brighten up your life.
The author lays out five levels of self talk which include recognition, negative acceptance, the better you, decision to change and universal affirmation all which can help you take control of your life if you understand them and work on them persistently.
The author of this book is Shad Helmstetter, PhD.
He is an international best selling author with quite a number of books in personal development under his name.
His books have been published in a number of different languages in over sixty-five countries due to the value people have found them to carry.
He has also appeared in numerous broadcast shows including CBS, ABC, CNN News and NBC. His audio programs are also listened to by many people worldwide.
This means, he is one person you can really benefit from by listening keenly to his words.
Some More Meat Of The Book
There are some crucial things I felt you can take away from the book and I will be sharing them with you.
Almost everyone talks negatively to themselves once in a while, but the author points out that we are capable of swerving this destructive negative self talk.
Some of the negative things people tell themselves include, “I am ugly”, “I am always wrong”, “I am never good enough”, just to name a few.
Because of this power we have of causing our minds not hold negativity, we make the negativity manifest in our lives.
And just as we are able to bring the negativity so can we reverse things and start feeding positivity into the mind, and the author goes deep on how to do this within this book.
Shad also explains in great depth on how to keep yourself controlled and avoiding responding to all situations.
He also tackles the aspect of finding inner motivation and how to make it work in your life the proper way.
Another area I deemed important is the author’s advice is on how you become what you think about most.
His perspective here will help you understand why it is often said that success or failure depends on what we tell ourselves and what you believe from others.
The author shares his experience with people he was helping stop smoking.
He explains how he helped them reprogram their minds into believing they were not smokers and his success stories with them.
This is one part you really want to read. It is packed with valuable insights into the power of the mind.
Desire and luck have are other things that have been looked into. And the author shows you how these 2 aspects have never helped in achieving high success levels.
In the book, there is also sort of a pledge that you can say everyday to improve how you talk to yourself.
The content in the book is pretty much wired around the concept of improving your mind through your thoughts and self talk that will in turn change the way you view things and how you work on them towards getting to the place you would want to get to.
I also loved the part where the author talks about belief. He says that truth and beliefs are different and he describes you how this is the case in a way you are going to find interesting.
What I can tell you is, there is a lot of useful information for you in here if you first make the effort of understanding it and then take the step of incorporating it in your life.
Since I don’t want to preempt everything for you here, I would recommend that you read the book to learn more on how to positively speak about yourself.
There’s more awesome stuff in the book.
Who is The Book For?
The book targets those that have low self esteem.
But I think almost everyone, at some point, talks negatively about themselves for this reason I feel everyone should read the book.
What To Say When You Talk To Yourself Vs Relentless Optimism: How a Commitment to Positive Thinking Changes Everything by Darrin Donnelly
Relentless Optimism: How a Commitment to Positive Thinking Changes Everything is a book that teaches you the reader simple and proven techniques that can help you become a more positive person.
Though the content in these two books is slightly different, both books are useful in helping you become a positive person and they kind of complement each other.
I encourage you to get the two books.
Pro’s and Con’s Of The Book
* A great book with really practical strategies to help them overcome negativity
* The content in the book is simple and easy to apply. The concepts have been made very easy to understand and also the language used is simple.
* The book is also a great starter on how we should talk to ourselves. I mean, everyone should learn how to talk to themselves especially positively.
* This is a book that will shed light to most of the things in your life you might have always wondered how they work.
* Some folks have said that the book is a bit too repetitive.
On the book’s defense though, I would say that we all have different understanding levels which means there are those who will get the idea faster and there are those who will need further breakdown to understand it (like myself).
So I would recommend you read the book yourself and determine if the book is really valuable and if every word counts for you.
I looked through what people who have read the book thought about it and here is what they said:
One reader said that the book is good for everyone to learn how to talk about themselves in a positive way.
Another also said that the book is great for people who are getting started on self improvement and that it can actually work for anyone.
On the negative side, there is a reader that said the book wasn’t any helpful to them. I personally didn’t get to know why they said that but I think this is life.
Some people will love something, others won’t.
As they say, one man’s treasure is another man’s trash.
However, considering that the highest number of people who read found it useful, there are higher chances you are also going to gain lots of valuable insights from it.
I also looked at some videos of the book to further see what readers had to say about it as well as to give you a good idea of how they are finding the book.
One of the reviewers said that the book is actually awesome and also gives a few details of the book that he thinks would come in handy as you read it. Here is the video (about 14 minutes long)
Where Best To Order Your Copy
To get yourself a copy of this eye opening book, I encourage you to go to www.amazon.com. This is because I find buying from the store to have so many benefits because you get:
* Free access to prime reading
* Free shipping for print book
* No extra cost once you get one kindle first ebook a month
* Free access to audible channels and so much more
As I conclude this review I would like you to remember that from the book you will learn:
* How to change your negative thoughts into positive ones
* How you can talk to yourself the right way to positively influence your life
* The five essential levels of self talk technique
My Final Thoughts on the Book
I think this is a great self help book because it relates with its readers in a very deep way and also the author uses his knowledge and experience to walk through this area of life.
For this reason, I definitely recommend this book to you that feels like you hate or if you constantly look down on yourself.
Personally, I feel that the book does work.
The one thing that will cause the book to work in your life, is if you follow through what is in there and make sure you are consistent with the changes you make on yourself.
That will be really instrumental in changing your life.
And that is all about the book.
Another great book I would recommend you read is Hope and help for your nerves. Really wonderful book.
I would really love to know your thoughts and comments on the book.
If you also have any questions regarding the book or about self talk, please feel free to drop them below and I will get right back to you as soon as I see them. I’ll be waiting for them.
Remember, you are amazing just the way you are!