You always feel deep pain that doesn’t seem to go away when you are hurt, right? And you really wish to know how to forgive those who have hurt you so that you live more at peace with everyone and yourself, too, isn’t it?
Well, forgiving people can be quite a daunting task especially if you know people take your kindness for weakness and keep hurting you over and over again.
But that shouldn’t worry you anymore.
I will be showing you how you can forgive people who have really messed you up, whether they are worthy of your forgiveness or not, but for the sake of your own peace of mind.
It will help you get a whole new way of looking at it and how to keep yourself from the pain and resentment that builds up when you feel your toes have been stepped on.
Let’s get right into it. 🙂
My Perspective About Forgiveness
Talking from my personal experience, when someone causes you pain, sometimes you feel like you never want to have anything to do with person, forever.
But when you put the pain aside and think about it for a few minutes, you realize that these people are part of your life, maybe your family, relatives or someone you work with, and you just can’t push them away for life.
I believe you can relate to this.
On certain occasions, it is possible to do it but it would only hurt you more as well as the other people involved, and it would only leave an open wound, not a bandaged one.
So the only way to handle this, is to find a way to heal these pains.
And something I also learned is that, most people who inflicted pain in you will not be ready to mend things because they are usually puffed up with pride and think what they said or did was justified, even if they were wrong and know they are wrong.
Some people may want to talk things over and settle the disputes. There are also others who will want to talk it over but want to convince you deserved what they did, which will only make the wound bigger.
So the best way I discovered to be the easiest to forgive is to simply forgive without talking it over with the people or try to figure out who is right or wrong, and simply bring all the bitterness behind you.
And you do this for the sake of your inner peace and happiness, not for anyone.
I also noted that it would not be a wise idea to use a mediator to settle the dispute because they will encourage conversations, and if the other person is not willing to accept the mistakes, it will only get worse.
So it would be best to build a character trait of forgiveness once and for all to be able to handle everything in a way which will keep the differences between yourselves going, but you are not affected by them, because you have a clear conscience and have nothing against anyone.
And there is a forgiveness system I also found to help greatly with this, which I will be telling you about in the next section.
My Personal Best System for Forgiveness and Healing Pains
The system I was really pleased with as far as learning about forgiveness the proper way, and actually being successful with it is known as The Choice of Forgiveness.
To me, it’s really the most valuable system out there which is not only educative but also very practical.
It has 3 efficient strategic approaches to this issue.
There is the theoretical approach (getting knowledge about forgiving), the practical approach (getting exercises that you use and work with in forgiving) and the emotional approach (where you get to release the bitterness and hate easily and smoothly).
Personally, I loved the emotional approach. Not to say that the others aren’t effective, they are super valuable, it is just that I am a very emotional person and thus bond with the emotional approach more.
Using this system, feels like you are being trained the art of forgiveness by a self improvement coach, and they are handling all aspects of it, in a favorable pace that you find easy and brilliant, even to keep up with.
It is something you are really going to love. 🙂
How it Works
Well, I will get a bit deeper into the 3 approaches.
Starting with the theoretical approach, you get deep knowledge and immense understanding of the attribute of forgiveness, as a character trait.
For this, you get a very interesting book called “Letting Yourself off the Hook”, which gives you valuable insight into things like changing your thought process and even a spiritual process that works so well.
But don’t worry, it has nothing to do with religion like Islamic Quran or the Bible. It is something general and literally anyone can use it.
From this book, you can take quotes for forgiveness that will really impact you.
In the practical approach, you get another wonderful book called the “Transformational Exercises Workbook”. This one walks you practically on how you build the trait of forgiveness slowly by slowly.
As you follow the exercises and put them into practice constantly, you’ll be able to forgive even those who hurt intentionally.
It is so awesome and insightful.
Now to the emotional part, the good stuff. This part there are 2 CDs for emotional healing sessions that are quite soothing and emotionally connecting to you. I think it uses much of emotional intelligence.
One CD is for subliminal sessions that help change your subconscious mind with regards to forgiving and help you be positive, accept and see forgiveness as essential in your life.
Also, the sessions convince you that it is very easy to forgive, and they succeed very well.
The other CD has been designed as a guided meditation for healing. It helps you let go off the emotional baggage that is really weighing you down.
You are walked through the process of forgiveness and it is really nice to sit through this session as it feels like someone is working on your mind and heart, as the sessions really touch you in a special way that you will find thrilling.
How to Use The Choice of Forgiveness
There are quite a number of ways of using the system, but specifically for forgiving those who have hurt you, I find the most effective way to be as I have listed below.
• Read the “Letting yourself off the hook” book for 15 minutes
• Read the “Transformational Exercises Workbook” for 15 minutes
• Listen through the subliminal sessions CD when you are putting the exercises in the work book to practice.
• Listen to the guided meditation for healing when you start feeling the pain and bitterness
This gives the best results, and you will be thrilled by the experience.
And that is all about my preferred way of learning to forgive.
If you have any questions about this topic, you can always ask me anything in the comments. I would really be happy you help you out. 🙂