1. Marta

    It’s really interesting your post. I didn’t know there even was a CD to helping you forgive others. Definitely, you make a pleasure to yourself by achieving peace of mind and don’t feel like any resentment for anyone. I think that your advice and these books are perfect for those who really consider important for them the relationship they live into but usually, people tend to keep resentment… This is something I will recommend to my sister since she has a friend who really hurt her and have never forgiven her and herself too. Thanks

    • Dave

      Hey Marta, 

      It is true. Most people still get to remain with resentment, even after having decided to forgive and move on. 

      And that is why I love the emotional approach in the system with the CDs. They help you wash away the resentment slowly by slowly and ensure you forgive the friend who betrayed you entirely.

      Let your sister know about them, she is really going to love them. 🙂

      Have a good one. 

  2. Daniella

    Hi Dave,

    One of my best friends has been betrayed by his coworker, which happen to be his best friend. For three months, he couldn’t speak anymore, and he lost a lot of his hair. He got really depressed! He went to a psychologist to cure his depression, and luckily he succeeded. Now he feels much better, but I don’t think he has forgiven him. If he really wants to go forward in life, he must get over it and let it go completely! I’ll show him this article. I am sure he will find it very useful.

    Thank you for this excellent post!

    • Dave

      You are welcome Daniella, 

      Thank you for letting me know about your friend.

      He surely must have been hurt if he went to a severe depression that made him lose hair. I bet he was really hurt.

      You definitely should show him the article to help him overcome the trauma and bitterness completely.

      I would really love to hear his story more.

      Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

  3. Derek Marshall

    Hi there,

    Great lesson and a great site, and thank you kindly for sharing it with us all. Forgiveness is something that is very difficult to do, and very divine. It takes far more courage to forgive than not to forget. But one must not forget.

    Being forgiving is one thing, being a doormat to be walked all over is another,

    One must forgive wisely and not let off lightly in my humble opinion. The choice is forgiveness is something I must surely look into. Thanks.

    • Dave

      Hey there Derek, 

      I am also with you on that. You should forgive the mistake completely but never forget the lesson you took from it.

      I think it is all about being a modest person.

       Don’t be too lost in anger and bitterness that you won’t forgive others but then again don’t be too merciful and timid that you give others the chance to toy around with your emotions and not take you seriously.

      It is as you say, it all boils down to humility and wisdom. 🙂

  4. Julian

    If a friend betrays you, I don’t think that you can call them a friend anyone. I doubt I would give them the opportunity to continue to lie to me. I think hat once a person shows you who they are, then you better believe it. True colors are true colors. That being said you do have to forgive in order to move on properly.

    • Dave

      Hi there Julian, 

      I agree with you someone who hurts you once will most probably hurt you again. And there is need to protect yourself from them.

      But then I tend to think that not all the hurt you will get from all your friends will be intentional. There are times when you friend will betray you without knowing it. And I think in such cases there is need to forgive them and move on still friends.

      I think it all boils down to listening to the reason the friend has for the betrayal and then evaluating if it is really reasonable. If it is not, then I think you should try to distant yourself from them.

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