Life as we know ,has its own share of struggles and happiness. Everyday, we strive to make life much easier ,comfortable and even fun!
However,sometimes, It does not work out as we would like and we become disappointed wondering how we can make life more fulfilling.
Do u want to live a more productive life?If your answer is yes,then the book ,”12 rules of life”, will help you with that.
In this review, i will take you through what the book is ,what it talks about,its cost and finally my thoughts about the book.
I will try all my best to give you every single detail about this book and if by any chance i do not tackle one of the things you really wanted,you can as well ask in the comments area and i will be happy to help you out .
Lets then,get started on this book’s review:
Name : 12 Rules for Life
Author: Jordan Peterson
Genre: Self-help book
Publisher: Random House Canada
Publication Date : January 23, 2018
Book length: 409
What It Is
This is a 2018 bestselling self-help book by Canadian clinical psychologist and psychology professor Jordan Peterson .
The book includes abstract ethical principles about life influenced by and based on biology, literature, religion, myths, clinical experience and scientific research.
The book grew out of Peterson’s hobby of answering questions posted on Quora , the one being “What are the most valuable things everyone should know?” and his answer included 40 rules.
The book is divided into chapters with each title representing a specific rule for life explained in an essay.
Jordan Bernt Peterson (born June 12, 1962) is a Canadian clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Toronto .
From July 1993 to June 1998, Peterson lived in Arlington, Massachusetts , while teaching and conducting research at Harvard University as an
assistant and an associate professor in the psychology department.
During his time at Harvard, he studied aggression arising from drug and alcohol abuse and supervised a number of unconventional thesis proposals.
Two former Ph.D. students, Shelley Carson, a psychologist and teacher from Harvard, and author Gregg Hurwitz recalled that Peterson’s lectures were already highly admired by the students.
In July 1998, he returned to Canada and took up a post as a full professor at the University of Toronto .
Peterson’s areas of study and research are in the fields of psychopharmacology, abnormal , neuro , clinical , personality , social , industrial and organizational , religious , ideological ,
political , and creativity psychology.
Peterson has authored or co-authored more than a hundred academic papers . Peterson has over 20 years of clinical practice, seeing 20 people a week, but in 2017, he decided to put the practice on hold because of new projects.
In 2004, a 13-part TV series based on Peterson’s book Maps of Meaning: The Architecture of Belief aired on TVOntario .
He has also appeared on that network on shows such as Big Ideas, and as a frequent guest and essayist on The Agenda with Steve Paikin since 2008.
Since 2018, he has also appeared on BBC Radio 5 Live , Fox & Friends and Tucker Carlson Tonight , ABC ‘s 7.30 , Sky News Australia ‘s
Outsiders , and HBO ‘s Real Time with Bill Maher among others.
With all his expertise ,i think that as a reader you can trust him to deliver the best and you have so much to discover about life.
What The Book Talks About
Each of the rules in 12 Rules For Life is essentially a wide-ranging long form essay. The topics vary widely yet blend perfectly, as the best writers are able to do so well.
Topics include psychology, religion, mythology, evolutionary biology, political theorizing, and much more.
Here are the rules:
Rule 1: Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back
There is a part of your brain constantly monitoring signals to figure out your position in society. How you see others, and how others treat you, affect how you view yourself. If others kowtow to you, you elevate your own impression of status. If others denigrate you, you lower your internal status.
If you slouch, you convey defeat and low status to others; they will then treat you poorly, which will reinforce your status. (This can be reinforced in serotonin signaling, related to depression)
Fix your posture to get others to treat you better, which will make you feel better and stand tall, thus kicking off a virtuous cycle.
Rule 2: Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.
Many people are better at filling prescriptions for their dogs than themselves. Similarly, you may self-sabotage yourself daily – by not taking care of your health, not keeping promises you make to yourself.
Peterson argues that you do this because of some self-loathing – that you believe you’re not worth helping. Instead, you have to believe that you have a vital mission in this world, and you are obliged to take care of yourself.
Nietzsche: “He whose life has a why can bear almost any how.”
Rule 3: Make friends with people who want the best for you.
Surround yourself with people who support you and genuinely want to see you succeed. You will push each other to greater heights; each person’s life improves as the others’ improve. They won’t tolerate your cynicism, and they will punish you when you mistreat yourself.
Don’t associate with people who want to drag you down to make them feel better about themselves.
Don’t accept charity cases by helping people who don’t accept personal responsibility for their actions. People who don’t want to improve can’t be helped.
Rule 4: Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
With mass media, it’s easy to compare yourself to the best of every field (looks, wealth, marriage, career) and think of yourself as miserably outclassed. But modern society is so complex that everyone has different goals – which makes comparing to other people pointless.
Drill deeply into your discontent and understand what you want, and why. Define your goals.
Transform your goals into something achievable today. If it’s not within your control, look somewhere else. Let every day end a little better than it started.
If you do this correctly, you’ll be unconcerned with other people, because you have plenty to do yourself.
Rule 5: Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them .
Children test boundaries of behavior to learn the rules of the world. As a parent, your purpose is to serve as a proxy for society. You must teach the child what is acceptable, and what isn’t.
Children who receive no/incorrect feedback will learn the incorrect boundaries of behavior. They will be poorly adjusted and rejected by society, which will severely hamper their happiness. If you don’t teach children the rules, society will punish them for you, far less mercifully.
Set the rules, but not too many. Use the minimum necessary force to enforce the rules.
Rule 6: Put your house in order.
It’s easy to blame the outside world, a group of people, or a specific person for your misfortunes. But before you do this, question – have you taken full advantage of every opportunity available to you? Or are you just sitting on your ass, pointing fingers?
Are you doing anything you know is wrong? Stop it today.
Stop saying things that make you feel ashamed and cowardly. Start saying things that make you feel strong. Do only those things about which you would speak with honor.
Rule 7: Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.
Doing good (preventing evil from happening, alleviating unnecessary suffering) provides your life with meaning.
Meaning defeats existential angst; it gratifies your short-term impulses to achieve long-term goals; it makes your life worth living.
Think – how can I make the world a little bit better today? Pay attention. Fix what you can fix.
Think more deeply – what is your true nature? What must you become, knowing who you are?
Work toward this.
Rule 8: Tell the truth.
You may lie to others to get what you want; you may lie to yourself to feel better. But deep down you know it’s inconsistent with your beliefs, and you feel unsettled.
You must develop your personal truth, and then act only in ways that are consistent with your personal truth.
Lies can be about how much you enjoy your job; whether you want to be in a relationship; whether you’re capable of something; that a bad habit isn’t that bad for you; that things will magically work out.
Once you develop your truth, you have a destination to travel toward.
This reduces anxiety – having either everything or nothing available are far worse.
Act only in ways that your internal voice does not object to. Like a drop of sewage in a lake of champagne, a lie spoils all the truth it touches.
Rule 9: Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.
People talk because this is how they think. They need to verbalize their memories and emotions to clearly formulate the problem, then solve it. As a listener, you are helping the other person think. Sometimes you need to say nothing; other times, you serve as the voice of common reason.
The most effective listening technique: summarize the person’s message. This forces you to genuinely understand what is being said; it distills the moral of the story, perhaps clarifying more than the speaker herself; and you avoid strawman arguments while constructing steelman arguments.
Assume that your conversation partner has reached careful, thoughtful conclusions based on her own valid experiences.
Rule 10: Be precise with your speech.
Anxiety usually comes from the unknown. You don’t know what the problem is, or something vague seems really scary. Specificity turns chaos into a thing you can deal with.
If you had a cancer in your body, wouldn’t you want to know where it is, what it is, and how exactly to treat it? Why don’t you treat every other problem in your life with the same clarity?
Be precise. What is wrong, exactly? What do you want, exactly? Why, exactly?
In interpersonal conflicts, specify exactly what is bothering you. Don’t let it spiral into an inescapable cobweb. If you let everyday resentment gather, eventually it may bubble up and destroy everyone.
Rule 11: Leave children alone when they are skateboarding.
Modern parenting has gotten overprotective. This is partly out of protecting children from danger, partly out of a call to equalize gender treatment, to ‘feminize’ boys and lower aggression.
Boys by nature are more aggressive. This is biological. They want to prove competence to each other. They want to inhabit that level of risk that pushes them to grow.
Let kids alone when they push against authority, toughen up, and do seemingly dangerous things. They need it to grow.
Rule 12: Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.
Life is tough. Good people get hurt. Suffering is pervasive.
You can hate the universe for this. Or you can accept that suffering is an undeniable part of existence, and loving someone means loving their limitations. Superman without any flaws is boring and has no story.
Notice little bits of everyday goodness that make existence tolerable, even justifiable. Watch the girl splash into a puddle. Enjoy a good coffee. Pet a cat when you run into one.
Best Place to Buy The Book
The best place I recommend you buy the book is on Amazon. The price there is fair and according to my research, it is the most trusted online store at the moment. It will also be very convenient for you to buy there if you were planning to do more online shopping today.
A good book that covers everything from basic human interaction to rearing children. It completely immerses the reader and forces them to think about what life can be if given the chance.
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I hope you found this review useful to you.