The ability to read someone better than a poker pro and discover their lies and lessons sounds almost superhuman. However, it is a skill you can develop if you’re prepared to keep an open mind.
Reading body language is essential for successful social interactions, rather than spending your time studying hundreds of nonverbal body language cues, you can develop a strong foundation in speed reading people simply by following your intuition.
Do you want to learn how to speed read,the book ,”What Everyone is saying” will help you with that. There is a lot that you will learn about speed reading people in this book.
Lets then get started on this book review :
Name : What Every BODY is Saying
Author: Joe Navarro
Best place to buy: www.amazon.com
Genre: Self Help Book
Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks
Publication Date : April 15, 2008
What It Is
This is a book by Joe Navarro that teaches you how to read body language.Actually, it’s the book on reading body language.
It is not a book that is about how to spot a liar (although it could). Instead it shows you how to identify when people show signs of discomfort when their words are saying something different.
It also provides information on how you can communicate non – verbally in a more positive way. We’re all guilty of showing bad posture or closing ourselves off in certain situations.
Joe Navarro (born 1953) is an American author, public speaker and former Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) agent and supervisor.
Navarro specializes in the area of nonverbal communication and body language and has authored numerous books, including What Every Body is Saying , Dangerous Personalities , and
Louder than Words . I think him specialising in that area guarantees you as a reader of accurate information in the book.
Joe Navarro moved to the USA at age 8 with his family shortly after the Bay of Pigs Invasion in Cuba.
After earning a B.S. degree in Justice Administration (Brigham Young University) and a Master of Arts in International Relations (SRU), he worked as an FBI special agent and supervisor in the area of counterintelligence and behavioral assessment for 25 years. Really impressive experience if you ask me!
He is one of the founding members of the FBI’s elite Behavioral Analysis Program and he also served as a SWAT Team Commander and Bureau Pilot.
Since retiring from the FBI, Navarro writes books and lectures to share his knowledge of human behavior. This is very good of him atleast that is what i think,you know,giving back to people based on his expertise and experiences.
He is on the adjunct faculty at Saint Leo University and has lectured multiple times at the Harvard Business School. Since 2003 Navarro has been a consultant to the State Departments and is a fellow with the Institute for Intergovernmental Research.
In 2005 Navarro got involved in the World Series of Poker Academy, training players on poker tells after a chance meeting with Annie Duke on a Discovery Channel program about detecting lies.
Since 2009, Navarro has been a regular contributor to Psychology Today Magazine (Spycatcher blog) and authored “Every Body’s Talking” as a Special for the Washington Post .
What The Book Talks About
Lessons from the book:
The problem is that most people spend their lives looking but not truly seeing, or, as Sherlock Holmes, the meticulous English detective, declared to his partner, Dr. Watson, “You see, but you do not observe.
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Because we are social animals, we not only lie for our own benefit, but we lie for the benefit of each other.
For instance, when people press their lips together in a manner that seems to make them disappear, it is a clear and common sign that they are troubled and something is wrong.
If you currently travel abroad or plan to in the future, make sure you understand the cultural convention of the country that you are visiting.
Particularly with regard to greetings. If someone gives you a weak hand-shake, don’t grimace. If anyone takes your arm, don’t wince.
If you are in the Middle East and a person wants to hold your hand, hold it. If you are a man visiting Russia, don’t be surprised when your male host kisses your cheek, rather than hand.
All of these greetings are as natural as way to express genuine sentiments as an American handshake.
The author says he is honored when an Arab or Asian man offers to take his hand because he knows that it is a sign of high respect and trust. Accepting these cultural differences is the first step to better understanding and embracing diversity.
Research tells us liars tend to gesture less, touch less, and move their arms and legs less than honest people .
We lie with our faces because that’s what we’ve been taught to do since early childhood. “Don’t make that face,” our parents growl when we honestly react to the food placed in front of us. “At least look happy when your cousins stop by,” they instruct, and you learn to force a smile.
Our parents—and society—are, in essence, telling us to hide, deceive, and lie with our faces for the sake of social harmony.
So it is no surprise that we tend to get pretty good at it, so good, in fact, that when we put on a happy face at a family gathering, we might look as if we love our in-laws when, in reality, we are fantasizing about how to hasten their departure.
If you are a parent, teacher, camp counselor, or school resource officer and you see children severely change or restrain their arm behavior around their parents or other adults, at a minimum it should arouse your interest and promote further observation.
Cessation of arm movement is part of the limbic system’s freeze response. To the abused child, this adaptive behavior can mean survival.
Eye blocking is a very powerful display of consternation, disbelief, or disagreement. Neck touching takes place when there is emotional discomfort, doubt, or insecurity.
Ticket agents can often identify passengers who will become problematic by how wide they position their arms when they are at the counter.
Because the neocortex (the thinking brain) is capable of dishonesty, it is not a good source of reliable or accurate information.
Best Place to Buy The Book
The place I encourage you to get the book from is on Amazon. It is my personal favorite online store and it comes in handy when you want to do more shopping other than just the book. So if you were planning to buy more stuff online in addition to the book, I would say Amazon is your best bet.
There is also a summary book of this book that cuts across the book and gives you the gist and weighty points you would want to use to make change in your life. It is also on Amazon and is something I recommend if you are those people who like having most moving points somewhere for constant reference.
I think this book is really interesting and has a lot to offer when it comes to speed reading people.
However, beware of the literal power this book possesses. If you read it a section at a time and then look for that item, you will start to see how much people actually lie in general conversation.
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as your questions.
I hope you found this review useful to you.