You really want to overcome the guilty feeling of cheating on someone, right? That’s why you badly want to know how to forgive yourself for cheating on your spouse, your girlfriend or boyfriend, or cheating someone you value greatly in your life, isn’t it?
Well, this guilt can be quite overwhelming especially if the one you cheated on has never cheated you, or on you, and is very much ready to live with you and has even forgiven you.
But hey, you should also not feel bad, because the very fact that you have realized your mistake and you are ready to change is enough proof that you regret what you did. 🙂
That is why I will be walking you through my personal favorite approach of self forgiveness that is discrete and quite effective as it handles all aspects of self forgiveness and helps you get over it easily and completely.
You are going to love it.
My Preferred Approach to Forgiveness
Firstly, I am not counsellor so don’t worry of getting attacked with many sensitive and embarrassing questions.
I actually also don’t like sitting through these counselling sessions or using other options that will get myself too feel embarrassed or feel on the spot, that is why I prefer using the discrete approach.
Don’t you hate the counselling sessions too?
Well, the discrete approach is the strategy that gets you to receive the counselling and advice of a counsellor without actually having to be there with them, or talk with them over the phone.
And thanks to technological advancements, it is very much possible to do this.
But before we get deep into this, I would like you to know that self forgiveness is a process which needs comprehension, acceptance and action based on emotional healing.
And all these should work together to heal all aspects of the guilt and self condemnation you have within yourself.
I say this because, there are people who give 7 steps or tips to help you do it and claim you’ll have forgiven yourself within 3 days, which is false.
Self forgiveness needs time for you to understand where the source of the pain is, understand the whole situation very well, accept that you made a mistake, and appreciate the fact that you are ready to change things.
And then take action, and be consistent with it in order to heal completely.
And this approach I will be giving you will be walking you through all that.
My Personal Favorite Self Forgiveness System
The discrete approach I am talking of uses a great program I really loved for forgiving yourself called “The Choice of Forgiveness“.
It is a system that helps you through the emotional pain and distress of cheating on someone who really loves you and was hurt but forgave you, even if you didn’t even tell them.
It helps you forgive yourself.
It also walks people through the process of forgiving other people who have hurt them as well as help folks overcome past pains in their childhood or things that happened that still bother them to date.
It is pretty much an all rounded forgiveness program that I found to be discrete enough and handles this issue very professionally in terms of quality, and is also very friendly to the user.
The 3 things I really loved about it is that it paints a very clear picture of your situation to help you understand, gives you practical and extremely efficient exercises to use to forgive completely.
It even has emotional healing sessions to help you overcome the deep pain you get when guilty starts stirring up within you.
Listening through the sessions will help you gain peace and calmness within minutes and be able to work the problem out with a clear mind.
How it Works
Well, the system works in 3 ways that when used altogether bring out high rates of success. The 3 ways are:
• Theoretical approach
• Practical approach
• Emotional approach
This comprehensive approach is what has been the main reason for the success of this program.
What happens is, you get two books, one with the theoretical knowledge of forgiveness and the other one with exercises, the practical aspect of forgiving.
The book with the whole knowledge of forgiveness is called “Letting You Off the Hook”.
This book is the one I was telling you gives proper explanation of forgiveness and shows you a different perspective of life with regards to this topic.
I mean, reading this will help calm yourself down and release the tension you have built into yourself that has brought the guilt and self condemnation.
It will help you let yourself off the hook of all the shame.
It will also enlighten you in deeper aspects of understanding and regret, as well as unexpected change of life events so well that you will realize how important forgiveness is, and how easy it actually is to forgive.
Then, there is the book with the practical approach called “The Transformational Exercise Workbook”. This one is more hands on.
It gives you a list of exciting but very effective exercises which are super easy to do to reduce the weight of guilt and restlessness slowly by slowly, and within a short while you will be all good.
Finally, there is the best part, my favorite part, emotional healing. This is where you get two healing sessions in audio CDs to help melt away the emotional baggage pinning you down.
There are subliminal sessions that will help change your subconscious mind which carries most of this baggage. There are subliminal messages used to convince you that it is easy to forgive and you are extremely good at it.
They are the sweetest resentment-releasing things you want to hear when mental distress starts boiling up inside of you.
And the second session is the guided meditation for healing. When you visualize the message being given in this audio, it becomes very easy to let go of the pain and gain tranquility fast.
It is something you want to listen to calm you down to repose.
When you work with all these as instructed, you are going to love the experience, and more importantly come out a better and free person.
How to Use the Choice of Forgiveness System
You should use all the resources here all at once, but in a strategic plan in order to make the most of them.
I prefer taking an hour in the morning, or night, or 30 minutes in the morning and 30 more minutes in the evening.
Work with whichever suits your schedule.
Now, here is how you should go about it.
• Read “Letting Yourself off the Hook” book for 15 minutes
• Read the exercise book (for 10 minutes) and prepare to do the exercises
• Listen to one subliminal session (to get powered up)
• Start implementing the exercises.
And that is pretty much it.
That is the best way I know that you should use to forgive yourself.
If you have any questions, feel free to leave them below. And I will be more than glad to help you out. 🙂