You are really deeply hurt by your friend’s betrayal but you sincerely want to forget everything and move forward with your friendship, despite the painful experience, right?
And you want to to know how to forgive a friend who betrayed you so that you can heal the wound and the pain, they caused you and overcome it once and for all, isn’t it?
Well, as they say, a friend’s betrayal is one of the hardest things to bear, but for a willing and determined heart it is possible.
And I will be helping you learn how to do this in the best way possible, okay?
Sweet! In fact, let’s get into it right away. 🙂
My View on Friendship
When it comes to true friendship, one of the strongest pillars that make it last long, with pure respect and love, is trust. And when it is betrayed, it feels like everything is lost.
But it’s actually not.
This is simply because it is only ONE of the pillars, not the ONLY pillar.
This means that it is still possible to save the friendship if the friend who betrayed you regrets what they did and ask for forgiveness, or if you don’t want to spend too much of your energy on holding grudges and being resentful.
Forgiving people is actually far easier than staying angry with them, and also has a lot of peace of mind to offer.
And to be able to forgive completely, you only need to know how to let go of the pain of betrayal, and learn own to build the trait of forgiveness within you.
Doing this will not only help you overcome the current pain, but also equip you properly for any other friend who might want to cross that same river again.
But, as you become a forgiving person and learn to forgive the friend and anyone who hurts you, be it a husband, wife in a marriage, or in a relationship, you also have to be careful that they don’t take you granted, and keep lying to you.
Be wise, learn to forgive as it is essential, but also be on guard against those who would take advantage of your supposed sweetness.
Now, to help you know how to build up the trait of forgiveness in you and also get to release the pain, there is a forgiveness system I will be telling you of that helps greatly with this, which I came to really admire, and which I know you are also going to find quite useful.
My Preferred System for Forgiveness
The system I have seen to be quite efficient with helping you through the past pains and helping you grow in forgiveness the proper way is called The Choice of Forgiveness.
It has great resources that address these two aspects very well, and that is why I really like it.
The simplicity and effectiveness with which it handles this subject is just amazing.
Personally, I have not seen any other system measure up to the quality work done by the Choice of Forgiveness.
How it Works
I will be telling you how they tackle each aspect and I am sure you are also going to appreciate the effort they have put into the program.
Firstly, the system is for helping people who have been hurt in all kinds of ways find their peace and joy back. And I will be illustrating how well it helps with pain of betrayal.
I had said that it uses two aspects, helping you build the character trait of forgiveness and calm the deep pains you might have of the betrayal.
Starting with the aspect of building forgiveness, there are two resources, books to be particular, that they work with.
The first book is “Letting Yourself Off the Hook”, which handles the theory part of forgiveness.
It has quite some deep insight into this stuff. It helps you see the betrayal from different points which really enlightens you and opens up your mind to other ideas and self discoveries.
There are also great quotes to take from it that will have a deep impact in you when you think of forgiveness.
There is also a spiritual exercise that really comes in handy with this topic, that has no attachments to any religion, which will add more to the knowledge you need to have to remain peaceful.
The second book is ” Transformational Exercises Workbook” which gives the practical version of what you will be learning in the first book.
Here, you get exercises that will be of immense help in getting you to let go of the hurting that people cause you, very fast and sincerely.
And they work very well.
See how these guys are well organized and how they address everything nicely?
Now to the last aspect of healing the pains you might be having at the moment.
They use two other resources, cds to be precise, which focus on the emotional part of forgiveness.
The first resource is a Subliminal sessions CD which has a compilation of emotionally influencing sessions that will help wash away the pain and bitterness slowly by slowly.
The subliminal messages used in it will even help you feel confident about forgiving and believe that it is very easy to do it, and you definitely can do it.
The last resource is a CD for guided meditation sessions for healing. Listening to these will help you feel at ease and very much peaceful, if you had a huge temper or deep resentment.
It is also useful when you are building a more understanding heart for yourself.
These guys, the creators, are real experts in this area and I would really wish you use the system to see how valuable it is.
How to Use the Choice of Forgiveness
There are a number of approaches to use when using this system, based on what you are trying to heal. For betrayal by a friend, this is the way to go:
• Read “Letting Yourself off the Hook” for 15 minutes
• Read the “Transformational Exercises Workbook” for about 10 minutes
• Prepare to put the exercises into practice as you listen to the subliminal sessions CD
• Put the exercises into practice soonest when you want to cool the anger, bitterness and hard-heartedness
And that is how easily it works effectively.
I hope I have helped you well enough.
If you need more help with this issue, or the system itself, feel at home, and drop your question below. I’ll be more than happy to help you out. 🙂